“Summer time, and the livin’ is easy” may be a sentiment
embraced by many of you, but for those of you in the throws of wedding
planning, living won’t be easy until the honeymoon...at the earliest. But have no fear my beautiful
Brides-to-be. Take a deep breath,
everything is going to be fine.
Start with the big picture.
Answer these questions:
What kind of wedding do I want?
The question might seem silly. Some women have been planning their weddings since they were
5, but other women don’t really know what they want. Either way, get ready for your ideas to change. If you have had a concrete vision of
your wedding since the womb, start to let go of it...just a little. It’s better for everyone. Start by answering more general
questions and you may soon find out that the swan ice sculpture you always
wanted doesn’t fit with the beautiful outdoor garden you fell in love with and
the summer heat. Stay
flexible, and I promise it will all come together.
Do I want a small intimate wedding, or a huge
celebration? (Size)
Your guest list size
will determine everything from the venue, to the favors. The more you have the more things cost, so if you have a
smaller wedding you can afford a few more things, but if you have a larger
wedding you may have to go with a less expensive option cause you need 300 of
them. The bigger the guest list the harder it is to find a venue, but they are out there. It all depends on what is
most important to you.
Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall? (Date)
Next up, picking a date.
Most of the time this will be the step that everyone will have an opinion about. Don’t get discouraged if you go through
multiple dates before you find one that sticks. Know you will never be able to please everyone, and only
include the people that you really want there in the decision (family and
wedding party max).
Destination or my own backyard? (Venue)
After you agree on a size, and date it’s venue shopping
time. Picking a date and finding
the venue are often the hardest part so, I know you just started this roller
coaster of love, but the first peek is almost ascended! Talk budget before hand
and know what you are willing to pay.
Save yourself some time and research venues online first. If it’s an outdoor, garden pasture you
are looking for make sure to take these things into account: are there outlets
near by, or do we need to bring in a generator?, Is there running water for the
caterers, and bathrooms for the guests?, Is there lighting for when the sun
goes down? and are there places to park?
If you want a multiple venue wedding, (e.g. a church
ceremony and a hotel reception) know that hiring transportation can get very
pricy. Most couples are choosing
to do everything at one location, but if you really want two venues, it is
totally doable.
Your venue may also dictate guest list size, so stay open minded and flexible.
What are my deal breakers?
Know what you have to have and be honest about it. Being passive is much worse in the long
run then honestly sharing your vision (as crazy, frilly, princessy as it may be)
and then paring down from there.
If everyone knows what you are shooting for, you have a much better
chance of getting there, then secretly mourning the loss of what you really
wanted and resenting everyone for it later.
What do I Love?
Try to nail down a theme that will be your through line
for the event. Whether it is
baseball, or an artsy photo that you love. Find something you connect with and make it your overarching
image. Carry around something that
reminds you of that image when you make decisions so that you can always have a
reference tool to keep you on track.
If carrying around a hand painted tea cup from your great grandmother,
or a cool pillow you found on etsy.com, helps you keep everything cohesive, it
will be so worth it in the end. Happy Planning!
LLLove,
Jen